Comments on: Should You friend your EX on Facebook? By Liz & Lisa

By: Mackenzie

Mackenzie — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 14:56:17 +0000

I googled this topic and stumbled upon your BLOG – this is going to be my new thang!

Anyways, what if an ex friended you on facebook and he cheated on you (badly) 6 yrs ago? It was my first love and very meaningful relationship. I have heard from friends that he is nostalgic about what we once had and wants to be friends. I would like to forgive and forget, but would rather have a conversation before being friends – thoughts?

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:08:03 +0000

That’s a tough one! There are some many factors to consider! Such as, what was the break-up like with the ex? Mutual or Crazy? And is he using his Facebook relationship with them to keep tabs on their mom? Or is he just commenting on their status occasionally? Either way, it sounds complicated! Good luck! xoxo Liz

By: Dakota

Dakota — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 07:31:22 +0000

I have a question for you. What are your feelings about how a wife should feel about her husband “friending” his most loved ex’s kid’s (who are all under age) on Facebook and maintaining contact to the point of causing issues at home? And also becoming very defensive and turning it into a “but they are just children” you must be a monster situation! Just curious!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 18 May 2009 21:47:24 +0000

Sarah–Frenemies…now that’s a whole other blog post! The frenemy actually might be worth accepting if only for voyeuristic purposes. To get an up close personal look at the unfortunate 55 pounds the bitch, er, she gained after HS graduation could make it worth it…. And I think the “unfriend” option is truly a beautiful thing…it’s always there “just in case”…
So far, I haven’t had to use it. But I like knowing it’s there.
Like the mag light next to my bed.

By: Sarah Pekkanen

Sarah Pekkanen — Mon, 18 May 2009 21:32:37 +0000

It’s case by case for me too… not just for exes, but former frenemies (did the bitch from high school REALLY change?) I’ve only had to un-friend one person. This guy I’ve never met, but who is also a writer (I figured we’d crossed paths somewhere along the line). Then I saw the photos of his naked behind on his page (he’s entertainment for bachelorette parties) and he began aggressively initiating private chats with me… all very weird and creepy. ANd I realized we’d never actually met. So far have not come across any serious exes on FB, but it would be fun to see what happened to them. As long as they haven’t become high tech moguls and are dating supermodels.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 18 May 2009 21:24:06 +0000

girli– you probably have the best approach. Go with however you feel when the friend request comes in…

By: girlichef

girlichef — Mon, 18 May 2009 19:03:34 +0000

I agree with both of you…mostly. Just depends on my mood. ;)

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 18 May 2009 16:11:09 +0000

Melissa–Matt & I have definitely had some laughs as he’s looked at pics of my exes (In my defense & theirs, every guy in our high school sported a mullet!)….

I definitely hope that Ms. Gold Jumpsuit shows up!! How much fun will that be?!
xoxo

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 18 May 2009 16:01:36 +0000

I’m with Liz – accept away! It is too funny to sit back and see who comes out of the woods, finds you and tries to make some witty/lame comment. It has already provided great laughs for me and hubby and judging from my past there can only be more crazys to come!!!! :) I am STILL waiting/hoping T’s ex (right before me) will find him so I can see the girl with the infamous gold jumpsuit who still (in 2002) thought fake nails were cool ;).

Love you two!!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 18 May 2009 15:37:02 +0000

Matt–Just curious…. you say it depends on HOW it ended. So what qualifies for a “friend accept” and what qualifies for an “ignore”….Liz is even willing to stay friends with a guy who tortured her cat! You people pleasers are crazy! xoxo